Adult Dating is an alternative to conventional dating, the difference being that
typically people are looking for a short term relationship or a one night fling.
It’s generally accepted that modern lifestyles are leaving most of us with little
time for serious relationships, and work commitments often compete with our socializing
time. However we all need a good sex as part of a healthy and balanced lifestyle
and thus Adult Dating has now become more important resource to the single woman,
man, for swinging couples or alternatively those with 'open marriages'. The extent
of the popularity is that Adult Dating sites have been growing 30% year on year,
and look to eclipse conventional dating sites by the end of the decade. This aligns
with our changing social attitudes towards sex and relationships together with the increasing
trend towards successful working single women.
Major Web sites that offer Adult Dating
have grown massively since 2002 and now
account for a significant share on the online Dating market as more and more people
look to find no-strings casual relationships. Sex and dating are inextricably linked
and sites have emerged to support our increasing behavior to have recreational or casual sex. Most web sites follow a similar format with a quick registration screen which
requires you to enter some basic details, which then expands on logon to fill in
/ add some narrative about yourself. Once 'inside' most sites offer an unlimited
time basic membership which allows you to perform searches and browse listings,
most sites will not display other member’s profiles and allow you to make contact
without upgrading to a premium membership plan. A few sites will also allow you
to view profiles fully and send winks to flirt with other members to show interest.
We recommend that you fill in your profile fully and add a good face picture as
this will tell others that you area serious adult dater and allow others to feel
at ease when you message them. Make sure you describe yourself, emphasizing your
personal and physical assets. Many Adult Dating sites have fairly explicit descriptions
of desires which will include thinks like oral sex, light bondage etc. Again don't
hold back, if that's what you like to do be honest, it's what adult dating is about.
An Adult Dating story
Emma is 31 and works for a advertising agency, she has had previous relationships
but has recently moved to having fun through Online Adult dating sites. She is typical
of a young professional woman whose work commitments prevents a serious relationship,
but still wants fun and sexual excitement with no ongoing attachments she says "After
a string of failed relationships which consumed so much of my time I looked for
a different approach to finding dates, so I tried an alternative method. I found
a couple of sites online, created a profile and waited to see what would happen.
It was a nerve wracking experience to begin with since a lot of the profiles were
raunchy and fairly explicit, and I was not too sure what to expect. To my pleasant
surprise I was mailed by several men in the first couple of hours who were all pretty
normal, with regular jobs and looking for similar things. I hooked up with one that
evening and had a really fun time. What was completely different was that I felt
so free, as there were no preconceptions as how the evening was going to go, right
from the start I new that we would probably end up having sex and that really made
the evening out more relaxing, since the ice was already broken. I have met some
really nice guys through this method and find that you get to know people much quicker,
its a bit like speed dating but with the benefit of cutting out will he/won't he
games that still exists when you go out for the first date. With adult dating it’s
definitely he/she will."
Is it safe?
As with any form of dating when you don't know too much about the other person,
there are risks, but by taking sensible precautions these can be negligible. The
same rules apply, firstly exchange a few messages and get a facial picture of the
person you are meeting. Arrange to meet somewhere public on the first occasion and
preferably let someone know where you are going and if possible who you are going
to meet. It's fair to say there are weirdo’s out there, but this is true in any
walk of life, and in any case when you are aware of the risks the probability of
something happening is very low. Most incidents happen when you are least expecting
it and have your guard down , like taking a shortcut home from work through a park
late at night or getting in a cab that looks a bit dodgy.
How much should I pay?
Most of the sites that we have looked at have fairly similar membership charges
and are all within a similar range from $15 - $30. Some sites have
free dating for
Women who are looking to date men. This will obviously attract more female members
and consequently these sites will have a higher male to female ratio and for men
this is a safer bet, although expect a slight price penalty - you may accept this
in turn for a higher chance of success. Most sites have around 7-9% female members.
For Sites offering free Adult Dating to women this can be as high as 30%. You have
to remember that Adult Dating is still seen as slightly sleazy to most women and
although this is changing as attitudes evolve and mature, there will always be a
bias towards male members. What most people will spend on a regular night out with
some friends, you can have a month of membership hooking up with men and women who
are actively looking for the same thing.
Does it work?
We get some people who join an Adult Dating site, throw a profile together with
almost no effort, put a picture of their erect specimen, send a few messages
how like 'fancy a fuck' etc , and then wonder why they don't get any responses. Adult
Dating is not some kind of magical box that will transform you into the super stud
that you imagine yourself to be. You still have to make an effort, and show your
quarry that you’re normal, decent, responsible and above all trustworthy. The difference
between Adult Dating sites and going down your local bar to pick someone up, is that with online personals / Adult Dating Sites, you are going to meet people who
are looking and want the same
thing...great sex. If you play by the rules and make
your online presence noticed then you will have repeated success, and that unfortunately
means taking out a paid membership. Highly
successful adult daters will create a
honest profile with a friendly face photo, logon a couple of times a week to keep their logon
status current, search for other people with a similar likes / looking for etc.
and then construct friendly messages, introducing themselves, they will not
repeat message and harass people as this usually leads to members just blocking
them(if the site allows). We tracked 20 men who were using this approach and all
has 5/6 success stories on average every month. For women their opportunities are
obviously greater as they have a larger online audience. It should be noted though that Adult Dating
does not just cater for men seeking women or vice versa. You will find
substantial communities of gay/Lesbian and swinging couples engaging in hooking
up through online sex personals sites.
What about Online Scams and Spammers?
The unfortunate side effect of online profile/social networking and Adult Dating
sites is the rise of the internet scammer, you may have heard of Nigerian scams
where individuals are persuaded to provide bank account details, well there are
a number of others which all exist in cyberspace. Most Adult Dating Sites have programs
in place to monitor members and delete and remove scammers profiles, however following
some basic rules should see off any scammer, as there all fairly obvious.
Don't
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Include any contact details in your profile most sites will remove this anyway to
protect their revenues and ensure they don’t get used as a listing directory for
email scammers.
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Send Contact details in messages until you have sent 2 and had at least two responses, most
scammers will give up very quickly as time is money to them, let them move on to
someone else.
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Go to a website emailed by another member, its almost certainly a scam to get you
to enter in your card details and join some premium adult web cam site.
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Dial any numbers that look strange or are not regular city dialing codes or cell
numbers as they may use a premium rate line, a recent Scam in the UK involved the
use of 070 numbers that look a bit like cell/mobile numbers.
Do
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Report any dodgy profiles to the web sites administrators.
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Protect your personal details and never disclose information to someone you don't
know well.
Summary.
We looked at a number of adult sites and put together a review which you can see
here.
We do have to caveat this article and advise that we are involved with a alternative
photo personals site see http://www.AdultDatingContacts.com
, which has been put together
to deliver a real and genuine Adult Dating experience however don't take our word
for it try a couple of different sites and make your own mind up. If you approach
Adult Dating with the right mindset then you really will have a whole load of fun
whilst expanding your social horizons and making new close friends. You may find
as some do that you end up meeting your life partner, this happens quite regularly
even when people are basically looking for something else. But what ever you are
looking for Adult Dating is worth considering.
About the Author:
Linda Seganwield 38, is a principal in New Creations, an alternative media group based in Tampa FL. She has extensive experience
over 12 years of online adult dating industry and web technologies, and has been involved with several highly
sucessful site launches.
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"right from the start I new that
we would probably end up
having sex and that really
made the evening out more
relaxing"
Emma 31, advertising Executive |
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"people who are looking
for the same
thing
...great
Sex" |
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What you really have to be careful about is scam and fake profiles, since they exist
on the majority of sites. Agree though with the author though that you really get
out what you put in, I have had a good few sucesses on these types of sites and
will continue to use them |
I've tried AdultFriendFinder and passion, however you are really limited as
a free member and really have to upgrade to a premium membership to even look
at a profile |
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Adult Dating is definately the way to go. Started using this 2 years ago and never
looked back. I've had some amazing sex with some amazing men. Just have to steer
clear of the wierdos, which is pretty easy.
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My concern is with the scammers, as it really frightens me, I have gone off
using social networking sites like facebook/bebo, beacuse thee seems to be so many
people looking to rip your id off and get your card details. Are Adult Dating sites
any different |
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CrazyChick, you may find that paid dating sites are different to free social networking
sites like facebook etc, since they employ lots of people to review profiles and
monitor activity etc. I guess thier business model is slightly better proven than
social networking sites that just seem to grow but don't generate any revenue. |
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I used http://www.Hornymatches.com for a while before a I realised that many of
the profiles were fake, must admit its a fun site though. Found another site at
http://www.find-contacts.com though which had real time online chat which
at least proved to me that the members were genuine. I have a couple of meets
from women from find-contacts, which were very real. |
"[I have a couple of meets from women from find-contacts, which were very
real"]
You lucky bastard, I think I'll try that site out, I have drawn a blank at fling,
I'll be signing up today. |
The trick with All Adult Dating sites is to be genuine and write good mesages. I
have been on a number of sites where so many guys write one liners which just
go in the bin. If men actually put some effort into it they would have much more
sucess. What I find is that these people that can only write one or tow lines also
end up harrassing you ( I just block them) but they are just total idots. The guys
I respond to put a bit of though into it, I find that that sort of man is also much
, much better at fucking, when we decide to get down to it and also highly imaginative. |
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The profits these sites must make must be enormous, take a couple of hundred thousand
members paying $25 / month that's $5 million bucks!! , can't see why it shoudl be
so expensive, after all there are no overheads. |
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I read that most adult dating sites spend massive amounts of money on google and
yahoo in advertising and the people who review the profiles, so maybe their
profits are not as large as you might expect |
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Maybe so but I can't see that they can spend more than 50% of thier income on advertising,
its must be pretty much like a conventional business. I 'm sure some people are
gettig very rich out of it. |
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Maybe so but I can't see that they can spend more than 50% of thier income on advertising,
its must be pretty much like a conventional business. I 'm sure some people are
gettig very rich out of it. |
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Online Dating sucks, I can't see why people can's just use the traditonal methods
of meeting, all this online stuff is crap. I just go to the local bar for some booty |
"RE:Mr Amazing says Online Dating sucks"
You obviously have not tried it, it's the most amazing (forgive the reference) way
to meet new people and get all the small talk and crap out of the way and get down to
what people want. Anyboy who thinks it does not work is just a loser! |
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